Do you have friends who date on sugar daddy dating sites or sugar baby dating sites? Would you take their sugar dating advice? It usually goes like this:
You meet a new friend online who you really like. You're on a second date. You're excited about him. You call your friend and she's been getting reports since you first contacted her online. She knows everything that's been going on between you and what you've been thinking since that first email. You tell her all the good things: he arrives on time, chooses a great restaurant, he listens intently, asks you questions about your life, he tells you about his dream of returning to Paris with a "special woman." He also says you look beautiful and asks where you want to go on your next date. And then you tell her that he said something that kind of bothers you. It doesn't look big, but you want her to take over. You tell her every word (of course), you hear silence, and at last she says:
"Damn it. He looks great. I think he's just like everybody else." At the end of the call, thank her for helping you see the truth and figure out how to tell her you don't want to see her again. Take your friend's advice and the other guy is done for.
This could be the road to love and dating hell Have you heard the saying that the road to hell is paved with good intentions? Well, here's my point: the road to dating and love hell is paved with kindness, especially from your friends and family. Yes, even if they sometimes give you the wrong advice, but they really want the best for you, they can ruin your love life in any way, and neither you nor they know what's going on.
Does your best friend fire every sugar daddy you meet because there are no clear rules? Do your so-called best friends constantly remind you that it's better to be single? Do your parents arrange for you to date a sugar daddy? Is your best friend at work enjoying your romance too much? If the answer is yes, my advice is this: you are now an adult, not a teenage girl, and need friends and family to guide you.
Now, you don't need to call your best friend every time you go out on a date. You don't owe your colleagues or anyone else a weekly status report on what your dating coach says or every detail you contact online. You definitely don't need to share the details of your love quest with your parents or friends.
You should be your own best mentor Now, the biggest benefit of being a mature dater is that you finally realize who you are and what you want. You're your own best friend, and you know what's right (and wrong). You have a better understanding and appreciation of what you have to have in order to have a happy and fulfilling relationship with the sugar daddy. You know that... Isn't it? Since you're here, I'm assuming you're at least doing it for yourself. This may take some time. If you still don't understand any of them, here's a great place to start learning all of them and preparing to be your own best consultant. Most of the time, you don't need a friend's dating advice.
As an adult with the right experience and information, you can clearly adjust your thoughts and feelings. When you're with the sugar daddy you spend time with, you can tell yourself if you feel happy, adored and valued. You've got the advice of a smart, compassionate, honest person: yourself! My advice is that you have to be confident in yourself first, and that confidence has to come first. Of course, I'm not saying that when it comes to love and romantic decisions, you should just rely on yourself. I mean, whatever you do, you should believe in yourself first. Then, when you do need help, be very careful about whom you trust. (note that if you feel like you don't know how you feel or where you want to be, your next step is to step away from the date and start with a plan to help build confidence.)
Who you choose to support you in making other important life decisions is selective, right? Do you ask your bank adviser what to wear? Or investment advice from your neighbors? You wouldn't, would you? So maybe listening to your neighbor or your friend who hates guys isn't the best way to get closer to true love! I can't stress enough how important it is to be careful who you choose to support when you're dating and enjoying a sugar relationship. Seek advice from:
People who really like and understand men (or at least, like you, are trying to).
See and appreciate who you are today. (unlike your parents, they may still see you as that stupid, immature kid.)
Know what you want and base it on the people who support you. (not what he or she thinks you should have.)
Someone who is in a happy, healthy relationship, or who is trying to achieve that goal herself.
Someone who can truly share your happiness without competition or jealousy.
One who does not take vicarious stimulus from the sorrow or disappointment of others.
Then, suppose these things:
Can be honest with you; Even if it doesn't agree with you. Sometimes you need to hear the truth... Even if you don't like it, or it might hurt a little. A true friend doesn't lie just to make you feel better.)
Take him with the right people at the right time Early on in a sugar relationship. Don't bring your sugar daddy to your family or friends. Maybe your friends are so used to your single life that you never know what "funny" story they'll decide to tell when they know you're dating, or how jealous it will be to see you fall in love. Jealous monsters can sometimes make us a little mean.
So find a place where you can trust yourself and be your confidant. Digest it for yourself before you decide who you want to talk to in the next round. Notice how your friends and family support and advise you. Make sure their selfish or ignorant Suggestions are not disguised as good intentions. If you find yourself asking (or receiving) unsolicited advice and the other person can't support you in a positive and effective way, tell her, "no, thanks. I appreciate your support, but I think it's best to take my own advice now." Yes... This may upset a friend or family member. But if she really CARES about you, she will understand the importance of keeping this part of your life in perspective.
Finally, the hell of love and dating is paved with the goodwill of those who have no reason to give their opinions. You should avoid using it on your sugar daddy date, or you'll find yourself spending more time with that friend because you're not going out with anyone!